Forgiveness is not a ‘one time and it’s done’ deal. It’s a process. Just as a quilt is stitched together layer upon layer, understanding forgiveness requires deconstruction of the layers we create in our relationships. It takes intention and care and time to carefully and gently pull back each layer. We might encounter knots and rips or surprises as we uncover how the quilt was put together, and there are choices each step of the way.